The Wheel of Change & Unfinished Business

I remember reading (a long time ago) about an idea within the Pagan religions about this thing called 'The Wheel of the Year'. Simply speaking, Pagans divide their year up with 8 festivals (the 2 solstices / 2 equinoxes + 4 others). Though I don't consider myself to be a Pagan, the idea of the year going around cyclically resonated -- and resonates -- with me still.


You see, I've decided to have a nice big clean-up of this here blog. I just had to re-vamp it all. Why, you ask?

Well. Foremost, the biggest reason is documented in this post. However, another, perhaps more human reason, was that it really didn't feel right. I'm one of those touchy-feely types and so I have to have things feel right to me. It's just how I'm programmed. If things don't feel right, I bail. Hey! I just explained why I don't ever finish projects! *snarf*

But, no. It was feeling wrong. So, naturally, I decided to re-vamp it a little (and I'm definitely not saying I'm done!). So, with all the changes I decided to follow suit of my good writer-friend Lezstar and make myself a nice little blog twitter.

And so there I was, ferreting away through follower lists to pick out people who I thought looked nice and would be interested in reading this here blog. Then, BAM, brainwave. Years ago I knew this guy that lived -- and I assume still lives -- in Florida. I'd been thinking about him for the past couple of days. I search for him on Twitter and, lo and behold, he's there!

And I think it's funny. MUY funny. "Why?", you say? Let me give you a bit more background.

As of about a month ago, yours truly had recieved psychotherapy for a good 2 and a 1/2 years. One of my very first therapists (or, as we call them, counsellors -- not like the US 'Camp Counsellor') explained to me this thing from a theory called 'Transactional Analysis'.

Stay with me!

What she explained was this thing called 'Taking Stamps'. Very kindly, she used post-its (I <3 post-its). For example, every time this tweeter ignores my @replies, I take a stamp of offense. If these stamps continue, we 'cash in', the stamps and 'act out' (normal speak: do something as a result of that emotional energy) towards that person. In my situation, it could either be an abusive tweet at them or, perhaps more healthily, an unfollow.



So, how does this relate? Well, I think that this is what a lot of people do with 'unfinished business' (though, for you psychology geeks, unfinished business really relates more to Gestalt). The person has all of these stamps from the things that certain person said. Yet, at the same time, they've not been able to 'cash them in'. Or, I guess, find closure with that relationship.

And so how interested was I when, after stumbling upon this long-lost Floridian-friend (is that the word for a Florida person? I don't know!) that all these emotions came bubbling up!

My Wheel of Change in motion, it seems. With all of this re-branding and re-vamping and re-whatevering it seems life has plopped this guy back into my life. Well, if I've got some unfinished business, then that's quite alright with me!

I wonder, then.

Where is your unfinished business hiding?